We will be saying to ourselves, “See? I knew it. When we think negatively, just before making a decision or expected event where we believe it will finally go wrong, if it does go wrong, we will be reinforcing that previous way of thinking. Why sadness hooksĪs a rule, negative thoughts are automatic thoughts that appear at certain times, contexts, or stimuli that trigger those behavior patterns.īehavioral psychology (to give you an idea) tries to find and analyze the variables that make that happen, at what time, and under what circumstances. What’s more, we ask ourselves, why am I sad? And because we can’t change in a matter of minutes, we feel worse. When we are sad, we see that the rest are happy, and we get sadder. What’s wrong? Am I a freak? Well, no, I’m just sad. We can hardly ever be sad or allow ourselves to stay at home without going out with friends. Stop, stop, stop! In this society where everything goes fast, advertising floods us with messages of sexism, consumerism, and excessive happiness we continually punish ourselves by telling ourselves that we should be happy, active, and shiny. Lately, I think I’m turning into a negative person I invite you to do so: the path can still be painful, but with help (preferably), or without it, it can make you better. Sometimes we begin to be sad, we are like this for a few months, and we have not reflected on the possible cause. Of course, we are not always aware of this. If it is your case, it was possibly due to some traumatic event that has triggered that repertoire of negative thoughts and sensations you are projecting to the future, the world in general, and your capacities as a person. I have been a negative person for a long time, maybe more than 6 months You may have a behavior closely linked to your personality that could improve your quality of life and those around you. But if you haven’t, and you’ve been a negative person all your life, you should still go and see a mental health professional. In this case, maybe you have already turned to a professional or a psychologist. For example: I’ve always been negative ever since I was little I’m telling you this because, in every situation, you will have to behave differently. Consider if it’s always like that if you’ve been thinking and behaving passively about life for a long time (i.e., months), or if you’re going through a rough patch and nothing turns out the way you want it to. So… how can I understand my way of thinking?Īs I told you before, sometimes it’s normal to see everything black. They get everything they want, their lives are almost perfect: work, love, time to travel, take cool pictures on social networks. Precisely when we are imperfect, sad, and see everything as negative, we get the happy feeling that others are doing well. It is normal to feel despair and the horrible feeling that “there is nothing I can do to change this, no matter how much I want to.” Or do you feel negative in a specific context?Įveryone feels negative sometimes, especially when we think about the future of things at a time when “everything around me is going wrong. Anyway, if you don’t find a clear answer to the question “why am I so negative,” maybe this article can help you understand some aspects. And I say possibly since to know that would require “researching” a few more things. If yes, possibly there was some event in your life that marked you, and from then on, you began to feel negative for a particular context or thought.
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